I was originally going to put this under the “Rantings and Ravings” heading, but the more I thought about it, the more I thought it was more appropriate to put it under the “Inappropriate Acts of my Friends” category. Much more fitting.

Some of my friends make me happy. They call me when Grey’s Anatomy is SO good. They email when they have a story to share that they knew I’d appreciate. They tell me about their experiences and travels. They relate to my health problems. They make fun of me. They genuinely care about what I’m doing and how my life is treating me. They know me.

Then there are one, maybe two, “friends” who make me sad. They don’t call. They don’t write. They don’t know what is going on in my life or how I’m doing. If they do call or write, the conversations are very superficial because both of us realize that we really don’t know each other that well anymore and we’re corresponding more out of guilt than anything. Or, I can speculate that they have become so engulfed in a relationship that their friendships are either inadvertantly pushed to the side, OR, in one case, our friendship was forced to be ended. Are you kidding me?

I know I’m only 26 years old, and when I go back and look at this post 20 years from now I’m going to read it and say “I thought I knew SO much”… but seriously. One thing I have learned that I don’t think is going to change is that your good friends are there for you through thick and thin. When you think you’re life can’t get any worse, your friends are there. They are there to give you a hug and tell you everything is going to be ok. They are there to give you their baseball hats when you are given the worst haircut of your life. They are there to listen to your venting emails when you’re pissed at the world. They’re there to help you fake like you’re ok, even though you’re not.

So, tell me. Why…. why would you isolate those friends when a “significant other” is a little threatened by your friendship? To me, that’s a MAJOR issue of trust in your relationship, not a reason to stop being friends with someone. I know there are sacrifices that need to be made in order to make a relationship worth, but I think that maintaining friendships should be a challenge you step up to, not something you agree to get rid of. Grow some balls.

Therefor, I am now removing the “friend” title from this one person’s relationship with me. They are now a “former-acquaintance.” I’ve said my peace. Thanks for listening, and, goodnight.